Voices

You know that little voice in your head? The one that you probably think is you but mostly it speaks in ways that make you feel smaller/icky/sad? It's got a few names for it, depending on who you talk to. Most known is probably ego or identity. 

Your identity is there to make sure you wake up breathing. It's that part of you that decided when you were three that strangers are scary or that you don't deserve nice things or WHATEVER it might have to say. And, when you were three, it WAS important that you had a little fear of strangers. But at 33, as you're trying to build your own business or make friends, it kinda gets in the way, doesn't it?

Here's the thing -- that voice isn't you. Your true authentic Self (big S) is that you when you're in action, empowered, and feel ALIVE. That's you. Everything else is a conversation that sometimes serves you but often doesn't. The great thing is that you can start noticing it -- and start realizing what you let yourself off the hook for when you listen. 

I have a very strong conversation of "there's something wrong here". This impacts: relationships (They didn't call me back, what did I do wrong?), projects (I'll never be able to get it done), and especially my own self-worth (If you were different, _____ wouldn't be this way), etc. Throw in a pandemic and racial protests and it's kinda terrifying being me some days. The wonderful thing about living committed to love and transformation is that I can just recognize whatever flavor of "there's something wrong" that's running and then take action. 

Wanna know why I think "there's something wrong" is so productive in my life? Because it lets me off the hook. For everything. I get to wallow. I get to be sad. It justifies me being out of action. And until recently, it's been very effective. But in the past week my husband found out his contract is being terminated early, an important young lady in my life told me she is self-harming, my ex-husband told me I was being a bitch because I was worried about Covid (and because I was mad he came and got my son without communicating with me), and my financial coach turned out to be a con man...and I only wallowed a wee bit. 

When you can not let life take you out, it's even more fun! We ALL have our own flavor of conversations that happen and being able to recognize them and BE IN ACTION ANYWAY. Life happens in the action, not in the inaction. Think of the moments in life when you felt most alive -- I bet they started with that voice telling you it was a bad idea.

So, what are you not taking action on that you really want to? Go for it. Take one tiny action. Everything moves you forward.

Life happens FOR you, not TO you. You're the author of you life. YOU. Go write a best seller.

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