To complete on a few things from the last post, so many many moons ago - I took it on to allow my friend to say everything she needed to say so we could close the book on...well, on whatever we chose to at that point. In the conversation, what transpired is that something YEARS ago had upset her, and she'd held onto it. It was this wound, festering, in our relationship. My move three hours away just added to that wound. When I shared with her that her upset, which involved her daughter (momma bear got activated), was completely different in my memory, she got curious. I shared with her MY memory of that event. We ended the conversation completely restored to love for each other. There is SOO much power in communication. In standing in love and listening! In not writing each other off. Now, she and I are not as in touch with each other now as we were, but I know she's just a phone call away, and I trust she knows that too. Two very busy mommas, connected forever and always there for each other.
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Now, what I want to share with you!
There is SO much power in declaring what you want and getting out of the way!
About a month ago I realized I wanted to be acknowledged for all I do -- especially for the miles I drive for my not-so-minis. I realized how I am not a demand for being supported, and I allow others to demand things of me and feel guilty if I do. I took on being WILDLY supported...and gave up any comments in my head that said I didn't know how to do that or what that looked like.
On the way home from the event I was at, late on a Sunday night, I called a friend to get support for dropping off my rental vehicle the next day. He realized the only reason I was coming home was to take a kid to school, and then I'd be heading back where I was. He offered to take her. Wildly supported! Wow, that was easy!
So then I called my husband and asked him to Priceline a hotel. I delighted in my cozy little room, all to myself. No dogs, no kids, no cats...no interruptions. In the morning I woke for my appointment and saw they had called me. To cancel, she was sick. I had that flicker of "What?!" and then realized, this was wild support too, I could lounge around a bit, take a leisurely shower, and get home when I wanted to!
Then came Valentine's Day, my husband's working in NYC, and I had no expectations of anything. We don't really do much for Valentine's Day. Imagine my surprise as flowers, cheesecake and strawberries are delivered!
I think I like this wildly supported thing.
Next, I took on replacing my 2003 van -- the one I lived in. 255,000 miles and counting. The one that stroked my hair because the ceiling is saggy and the one that, while being a fabulous vehicle, is plumb worn out. I've never shopped for a vehicle before and really been at choice. That was fun! Do you know how many improvements there are in minivans in the past 13 years?! Heck, even a five-year-old van is a Caddy to me! And I could take my time, go the same way as this, and get CLEAR and PROUD of what I want in my new van...and trust I'll find it.
The kids and I made a list of all our "Must Haves" and "Would Likes" for the new van. Our new van, that we've had almost three weeks now, has everything on the "must have" and half of the "would likes". Sadly (for my son) they didn't have any with machine guns mounted on the roof or mini-fridges. In three weeks I've put more than 3,000 miles on the new van. The best part of wildly supporting myself is that I gave the old van to a friend. A friend who gives her heart and soul to all she does and expects nothing in return. It makes my heart full to be able to support her that way.
I'm thinking perhaps the reason I haven't been as wildly supported before is because I got in my own way...where are you doing the same? Who wants to take on being wildly supported? What would that look like for you?
How are YOU going to show YOU how much you love yourself? What are you going to create to step into? This is delighting me, join me!
